Aapan gaand hawai, dusar ke kare dawai. (There are wounds on your own ass & you are putting medicine on another’s.) For the past few weeks, one of the things which has weighed heavy on my mind is the subject of relationships. After risking a very precious friendship (read more in my old blog here), I asked myself, ‘What is all this hullabaloo about human connections?’, ‘Is there any error on my part as to how I have been relating to others?’ Quite recently, I received one of the best & juiciest pieces of advice ever: Whatever it is, just say thank you & give your blessings. You cannot have even a tiny ounce of ill-will, or else the blessing cannot manifest. You cannot throw your shit out on others, it’s your own responsibility to handle your shit. If you have shit inside you: go to the toilet, close the door, shit it out, wash your own ass, pull your pants up, & come out of the toilet. Don’t just sit there & expect someone else to wash your ass for you. Maybe your own mother can wash your ass for you, but even then, she can’t do it for you all the time! Bahahahahah! Love it! Besides, dear friends, I’m sure you have been on the receiving end of all this shit-throwing at least once in your life! Remember that one friend who was going through a break up/didn’t get into college/was having a hard time in life/yadda yadda yadda & called you out for coffee & here you were trying to cheer them up but they refused to come out of that shithole? & to make matters worse, maybe they even started giving you a hard time for no reason? Heckuva lot of fun that was, huh? I’m all for people helping other people. But I don’t believe in being someone’s punching bag. Yes, the idealist Libra in me still very much hopes for someone who will walk me through life & help me through every up & down. But at the same time, the realist in me understands that at the end of the day, it is still my own goddamn responsibility to save myself. Not a very nice thought, considering all those Disney cartoons I’ve been watching since toddlerhood. Goddamn social conditioning! I could go on & on about this. But what I’ve learned is:
I did this piece last July: Ripple Effect. Core Connections. Each soul we cross paths with affects us to a certain extent, whether we like it or not, & whether we realize it or not. The question is, how many actually touch your very centre? How many do you allow close enough to see your one, true self? & how many are sincere enough to want to know the real you? Given these two variables, how many people have touched your centre? According to mainstream ideology, our relationships with the people we love would remain the same forever. (Un)Fortunately, life isn’t always this way. We each have our own thing to do in life, our own lessons we have come to this world to learn. & that may mean that our paths will separate. Life is a never-ending journey. Like a train ride, it stops at various stations; some people get off the train, some get on. Some stay. The thing is, we can never really fully control who gets on or off, & who stays. Ironically, this is the beauty of life – not knowing. But that doesn’t mean that out of all these people, some are ‘better’ than others. Regardless of how our relationship with each one of them is, they all played a part in shaping us into the person we are today, & vice versa. Aapan gaand hawai, dusar ke kare dawai. Check yourself. It's not your job to think for someone else. But it is your job to think for yourself. Do you, & everything else will work out just fine. ;)
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About Prabh LehriI am a yoga teacher based in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia. I am passionate about yoga as a form of healing on the physical, emotional & mental level. I have been on a yoga journey for almost a decade and have been formally sharing my experience in the last 4 years. Archives
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